And recovering from a breakup, is a process. Do journal the heck out of it, and choose trusted 'ride or die' friends to unpack at nausea. Whether it's a breakup from a boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, life split, you can still go through the five stages of grief, which include anger and. In stage 1, the breakup doesn't feel real. Regardless of Stage 2 beautifully combines both to make you a Raving Lunatic. Just as you lose all.The 5 Stages of Heartache (Get Over Your Breakup?)
So you either coast or plummet into stage 2. Just as you lose all rational thinking when falling in love, so too will your senses leave their cranial premises at love's demise. In this stage, you say and do crazy shit that you would not otherwise be doing if you were in your right mind. So you drive by his house, circling the block as you sob.
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Perhaps you hoped to see him while he was on his way to his car. You envision driving up alongside him, rolling down the window and saying, all choked up, "I feel terrible about our breakup. And oh, here's your mug.
Maybe you lose an hour of productive living by listening to every voicemail message he ever left you, trying to pinpoint exactly when in the relationship his messages went from endearing to casual.
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And of course, you also have access to Facebook, Snapchat and every form of online self-torture. Because you really need to know that hey, he's still living his life, liking and posting shit, as if things were back to normal for him, when really he should be completely paralyzed with grief over losing you.
At some point in your temporary insanity you start questioning yourself. You dive deep into stage 3. If it was your decision to end the relationship, you might begin to feel decision remorse, "Maybe it's ok that we hardly saw each other. You begin to carry a heavy sadness around to the point that the very act of being "normal" is exhausting.
So all day you fill the sadness dam with unshed tears and as soon as you get home, you face plant onto your bed and unleash. And we aren't talking about the dainty, sniffly tears either.
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We're talking the full-on flood gates of an ugly cry so ugly that you are shocked right out of it when you see yourself in the mirror while reaching for the tissue on your vanity, "Whoa Where are my eyes??
Your sadness goes numb and gives way to stage 4. Screw this As you rise from the haze of blinded misery, you take stock of what you lost against what you have and conclude, "Screw this, I'm better than this! And you eventually convince yourself that, no, you will not end up old and alone sitting in your rocker, with a dozen cats you are allergic to, while knitting scarves for your lady friends and their husbands in the retirement home.
The broken heart starts to heal and scab over. Everything will be ok. Allow yourself to work through your anger, perhaps by exercising, drawing or writing in a journal.
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Bargaining In the bargaining phase you will try to restore your relationship or perhaps rebuild it as a friendship. Jennifer Kromberg's article "The 5 Stages of Grieving the End of a Relationship," you may try anything you can to reclaim your relationship. Instead of jumping through hoops to get your relationship back, you can salvage your pride by starting anew without your ex and progress to other stages of grief. At this point in your grieving, you come to terms with the fact that the situation is not going to change.
This is a time for reflection. You may want to be alone.
Realize the kindness of others is not intended to upset you. Instead, rely on your support system to keep you distracted from your grief.
The Help Guide article "Coping with a Breakup or Divorce" reminds those in pain to resist the temptation to turn to drugs, alcohol or food. Those habits can be destructive, so eat well, sleep well and exercise. Special relationships make you who you are.
However, in the final stage of grief after a breakup, you will begin to piece together what happened, accept the breakup and acknowledge the part you played in it, according to the Help Guide article "Coping with a Breakup or Divorce".