Back and forth relationship

5 Honest Reasons Why He’s Always Going Back And Forth With How He Feels About You | Thought Catalog

back and forth relationship

Last year things began to change drastically in my three-and-a-half-year relationship. We had made plans to get married when suddenly he stopped treating me. On-again/off-again relationships generally have a pretty bad reputation. And actually, science tends to back up what everyone's cranky best. I have heard that relationships are a subtle dance between two people, but I think that some take this sentiment way too far. There seems to be a rash of men.

So I often played the game back because I had no other choice aside from moving the hell on to the next guy.

He Keeps Going Back And Forth With The Relationship. What Do I Do?

But I was young and stupid AF. And in most situations, the issue is usually along these lines: Insecurity A guy who feels the need to bait and switch you is insecure.

He can only confirm how great he is when a girl is chasing him and throwing herself at him, which is what he needs for that confirmation.

back and forth relationship

What he really needs is a reality check, being a douchebag should not boost your ego, landing a girl who you are worthy of should. Giving into his emotions of really liking you and wanting to be with you makes a fearful guy vulnerable. Strong men, however, will never react to fear and stay who they are regardless of their feelings for a woman. They also see committing to someone else as an opportunity to become a greater man, not a scared pussy.

This guy does not need a reminder of his lack of progression from anyone. What he fails to recognize is that by ruining things with someone who wants him regardless of his lifestyle, he stays stuck in that pattern that keeps him from moving forward in his life.

Emotional Unavailability The emotionally unavailable guy has underlying issues that he refuses to deal with.

Why do we keep going back and forth in our relationship?

But this begs the question of just how they able to get so much while giving so little? It's very frustrating to be in a relationship where it's one emotional roller coaster after another.

One moment you are up, the next you are down. One moment all is right as rain and you think a corner has been turned, and then the next moment he tells you he doesn't know what he wants.

Why do we keep going back and forth in our relationship?

Trouble is, he does know what he wants and also what he doesn't. If he wanted all of you, lock, stock and barrel, and was prepared to give as much as he took, he would have done so by now. Granted, there are exceptions to this rule, and sometimes the guy just needs a swift kick in the butt to get moving, but generally speaking, if you are busy giving to a fault and he is taking, giving more isn't going to change this pattern.

As women we are doers … if we want something, we go for it. If we see a problem, we fix it, even if it means swallowing our pride or otherwise compromising in order to keep the peace. Typically, this would be an amazing quality if employed correctly.

When employed incorrectly, say for a guy who cannot seem to decide if he is in or if he is out, it ends up setting up a pattern where he feels quite free to come and go as he pleases. If you are intent on giving, you feed his intent to take. If you allow him to waltz back in through the door after going M. You may not like the implication of your own involvement in this cycle, but it is true nonetheless. You do not deserve someone who is around when it's convenient for him, or when he needs something.

You do not deserve someone who suddenly goes M. You deserve someone who is going to give, as consistently and ardently as you do. If he is not doing that, then trust me, employing the same methods is not going to garner you different results.

Back and Forth Relationships - Neil Rosenthal

There are ways to work the situation. You can change it by implementing changes within yourself … and if you would like more in-depth insight on how to do this, specific to your situation, you can contact me for a reading and a psychic profile of your lover.

back and forth relationship

In the interim, here are a few general tips for dealing with the situation. Do not let him call your bluff! If he goes M.

back and forth relationship